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Barker has curated a list of recommended adoption-related books, categorized by audience and specific interest area.  If you'd like to find out more about these books, most are offered for further review, and purchase, in The Barker Adoption Foundation's boutique.  If you do decide to make a book purchase, approximately four percent of sale proceeds will be sent to Barker to support our services. 


Children's Books About AdoptionBooks About Adoption
For Children in LGBT Adoptive Families
Preparing Children for a New Sibling by Adoption
Adolescent and Teen Books About Adoption
Birth Parents
Parenting Adopted Children
Transracial Adoption
Open Adoption
Search and Reunion
For Friends and Family
Lifelong Issues
Special Needs and Older Child Adoption

Children's Books About Adoption

  • A Koala for Katie, Jonathan LondonChildren's Books about Adoption
  • A Mother for Choco, Keiko Kasza
  • Adoption is for Always, Linda Girard
  • Born From the Heart, Berto Serrano
  • Borya and the Burps: An Eastern European Adoption Story, Joan McNamara
  • Brown Like Me, Noelle Lamperti
  • Did My First Mother Love Me?  Kathryn Ann Miller
  • Double Dip Feelings, Barbara Cain
  • Families are Different, Nina Pellegrini
  • Forever Fingerprints: An Amazing Discovery for Adopted Children, Sherrie Eldridge
  • Happy Adoption Day! John McCutcheon and Julie Paschkis
  • How I was Adopted: Samantha’s Story, Joanna Cole  
  • How it Feels to Be Adopted, Jill Krementz
  • I Don’t Have Your Eyes, Carrie Kitze
  • I Love You Like Crazy Cakes, Rose Lewis
  • I wished for You: An Adoption Story, Marianne Richmond
  • Kids Like Me in China, Ying Ying Fry with Amy Klatzin
  • Let’s Talk About It: Adoption, Fred RogersWhen You Were Born in Korea Children's Adoption Book
  • Over the Moon: An Adoption Tale , Karen Katz
  • Paloma the Possible, Gaily Toldtales
  • Rosie’s Family: An Adoption Story,  Lori Rosove
  • Tell Me Again About the Night I was Born, Jamie Lee Curtis
  • The Mulberry Bird, Brodzinsky, Anne Braff
  • The Tummy Mummy, Michelle Madrid-Branch
  • Three Names of Me, Mary Cummings  
  • Welcome Home Forever Child, Christine Mitchell
  • When You Were Born in China, Sara Dorow
  • When You Were Born in Korea, Brian Boyd
  • Yes I’m Adopted, Sharlie Zinniger

For Children in LGBT Adoptive Families

  • Daddy, Papa, and Me, Leslea Newman
  • Felicia’s Favorite Story, Leslea Newman
  • Flying Free, Jennifer Gregg
  • In Our Mothers’ House, Patricia Polacco
  • King and King, Linda de Haan
  • Molly’s Family, Nancy Garden
  • Momma, Mommy, and Me,  Leslea Newman
  • Oh The Things Mommies Do! What Could Be Better Than Having Two? Crystal Tompkins
  • Tango Makes Three, Justin Richardson and Peter Parnell
  • The Different Dragon, Jennifer Bryan
  • The Family Book, Todd Parr
  • Two Dads, Carolyn Robertson

Preparing Children for a New Sibling by Adoption

  • How I became a Big Brother, David Moore
  • Jin Woo, Eve Bunting 

Adolescent and Teen Books About Adoption

Adopted Teens Only adoption book for teens

  • Adopted: The Ultimate Teen Guide (It Happened to Me), Suzanne Buckingham Slade
  • Adopted Teens Only: A Survival Guide to Adolescence, Danea Gorbett
  • All About Adoption: How to Deal with Questions of Your Past, Anne Lanchon
  • An-Ya and Her Diary, Diane Rene Christian
  • Pieces of Me: Who Do I Want to Be? Robert Ballard

Birth Parents

  • Being a Birth Parent: Finding Our Place, Brenda Romanchik
  • Giving Away Simone: A Memoir, Jan Waldron
  • Out of the Shadows: Birthfather’s Stories, Mary Martin Mason
  • Saying Goodbye to a Baby: Birth Parents Guide to Loss and Grief in Adoption, Patricia Roles
  • The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe vs. Wade, Ann Fessler
  • The Other Mother: A Woman’s Love for the Child She Gave Up For Adoption, Carol Schaefer
  • The Third Choice: A Woman’s Guide to Placing a Child for Adoption, Leslie Foge and Gail Mosconi
  • Without a Map, Meredith Hall

Parenting Adopted Children

  • Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents, Deborah Gray
  • Attaching through Loves, Hugs and Play, Deborah Gray
  • Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Jean MaCleod
  • Making Sense of Adoption: A Parent’s Guide, Lois MelinaTwenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew book
  • Lifebooks: Creating a Treasure for The Adopted Child, Beth O’Malley
  • Parenting Adopted Adolescents and Appreciating their Journeys, Gregory Keck
  • Raising Adopted Children: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent, Lois Melina
  • Real Parents, Real Children: Parenting the Adopted Child, Holly Van Gulden and Lisa Bartels-Rabb
  • Secret Thoughts of An Adoptive Mother, Jana Wolff
  • Talking with Young Children About Adoption, Lois Ruskai Melina
  • Talking with Your Child About Adoption, Patricia Martinez Dorner
  • Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child, Betsey Keefer and Jayne Schooler
  • The Connected Child: Bringing Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family, Karyn Purvis and David Cross
  • The Whole Life Adoption Book: Realistic Advice for Building a Healthy Adoptive Family, Jayne Schooler and Thomas Atwood
  • Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft, Mary Hopkins Best
  • Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, Sherrie Eldridge
  • Twenty Things Adopted Parents Need to Succeed, Sherrie Eldridge

Transracial Adoption

  • Adoption, Race and Identity: From Infancy to Adolescence, Rita Simon and Howard Altstein
  • Birth Marks: Transracial Adoption in Contemporary America, Sandra Patton
  • Come Rain or Shine: A White Person’s Guide to Adopting and Parenting Black Children, Rachel Garlinghouse
  • Cross Cultural Adoption: How to Answer Questions from Family, Friends and Community, Amy Coughlin and Caryn Abramowitz
  • Does Anyone Else Look Like Me? A Parent’s Guide to Raising Multiracial Children, Donna Nakazawa
  • I’m Chocolate You’re Vanilla: Raising Healthy Black and Biracial Children in a Race Conscious World, Marguerite Wright
  • Inside Transracial Adoption, Gail Steinberg, Beth Hall
  • In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories, Rita Simon, Rhonda Roorda
  • In Their Parents’ Voices: Reflections on Raising Transracial Adoptees, Rita Simon, Rhonda Roorda
  • Prison Baby, Deborah Jiang-Stein

Open Adoption

Dear Birthmother Open Adoption Book

  • Because I Loved You: A Birthmother’s View of Open Adoption, Dischler Patricia
  • Children of Open Adoption and Their Families, Kathleen Silber and Patricia Dorner
  • Dear Birthmother, Kathleen Silber
  • Making Room in Our Hearts: Keeping Family Ties Through Open Adoption, Micky Duxbury
  • Openness in Adoption: Exploring Family Connections, Harold Grotevant and Ruth McRoy
  • The Open Hearted Way to Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, Lori Golden and Crystal Haas
  • The Spirit of Open Adoption, James L. Gritter
  • Trues Stories of Open Adoption, Bruylane Hubbard Brosner and Anne Wrixon
  • You Belong, Ann Hoang

Search and Reunion

  • A Single Square Picture: A Korean Adoptee’s Search for Her Roots, Katy Robinson
  • Birthbond: Reunions Between Birthparents and Adoptees and What Happens After, Judith Geidman
  • Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents and Adoptive Parents, Jean Strauss
  • Ithaka: A Daughter’s Memoir of Being Found, Sarah Saffian
  • Postcards from Cookie: A Memoir of Motherhood, Miracles and a Whole Lot of Mail; Caroline Clarke
  • Reunion: A Year in Letters Between a Birthmother and the Daughter She Couldn’t Keep, Katie Hern and Ellen McGarry Carlson
  • The Adoption Reunion Handbook, Liz Trinder, Julia Feast and David Howe
  • The English American, Alison Larkin
  • The Search: A Memoir of an Adopted Woman, Titia Ellis

For Friends and Family

  • Adoption is a Family Affair: What Relatives and Friends Must Know, Patricia Irwin Johnson
  • In on It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You to Know About Adoption. A Guide for Relatives and Friends, Elizabeth O’Toole

Lifelong Issues

Why Didn't She Keep Me book about adoption

  • Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self, David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schechter and Robin Henig
  • Parenting As Adoptees, Adam Chau and Kevin Oste-Vollmers
  • The Adoption Life Cycle: The Children and Families Through the Years, Elinor Rosenberg
  • The Family of Adoption, Joyce Pavao
  • Lost Daughters: Writing Adoption from A Place of Empowerment and Peace, Edited by Amanda Transue-Woolston, Julie Strongberg, Karen Pickell and Jennifer Anastasi
  • Questions Adoptees are Asking, Sherrie Eldridge
  • Searching For A Past: The Adopted Adult’s Unique Process of Finding Identity, Jayne Schooler
  • Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make, Sherrie Eldridge
  • Why Didn’t She Keep Me? Barbara Burlingham-Brown


  • A Long Way Home: A Boy’s Incredible Journey from India to Australia and Back Again, Saroo Brierly
  • A Wealth of Family: An Adopted Son’s International Quest for Heritage, Reunion and Enrichment, Thomas Brooks
  • Beyond Good Intentions: A mother Reflects on Raising Internationally Adopted Children, Cheri Register
  • China Ghosts: My Daughter’s Journey to America, My Passage to Fatherhood, Jeff Gammage
  • I Wish for You a Beautiful Life: Letters from Korean Birthmothers to Their Children, Sara Dorow
  • Love in the Driest Season, Neely Tucker
  • Once They Hear My Name: Korean Adoptees and their Journeys Toward Identity, Ellen Lee, Marilyn Lammert, Mary Ann Hess
  • Make Me a Mother, Susan Antonetta
  • Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child, Patty Coge
  • The Year She Left us, Kathryn Ma
  • Voices from Another Place: A Collection of Works From a Generation Born in Korea and Adopted to Other Countries, Edited by Susan Soon-Keum Cox

Special Needs and Older Child Adoption

  • Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special Needs Kids, Gregory Keck and Robin Kupecky
  • Adopting the Older Child, Claudia Jewett
  • Attachment Trauma and Healing: Understanding and Treating Attachment Disorder and Children and Families, Terry Levy and Michael Orlans
  • Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children: Daniel Hughes
  • Our Own: Adopting and Parenting the Older Child, Trish Maskew
  • Damaged Angels: An Adoptive Mother Discovers the Tragic Toll of Alcohol in Pregnancy, Bonnie Buxton
  • The Connected Child: Bringing Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family, Karyn Purvis and David Cross
  • The Mystery of Risk: Drugs, Alcohol Dependency and the Vulnerable Child, Ira Chasnoff
  • Prison Baby, Deborah Jiang-Stein
  • Wounded Children Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Foster and Adoptive Families, Jayne Schooler and Betsey Keefer Smalley
  • Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience after Neglect and Trauma, Deborah Gray
  • The Life Intended, Kristin Harmel
  • The Unofficial Guide to Adoptive Parenting, Sally Donovan
  • Three Little Words, Ashley Rhodes-Courter