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Fostering Attachment...Focus on Food -- A large part of daily family life revolves around food and the family dinner table. This excerpt from Trish Maskew’s Our Own: Adopting and Parenting the Older Child (p. 104) does a wonderful job explaining the connection between food and attachment. “Food carries with it the psychological message of nurturing. Serving food, with a smile, is one of the best ways to form an attachment. By providing physical nourishment, you send the message that you are willing to provide for your child emotionally. Some children may resist this at first, as it implies trust, but over time it will likely aid your bonding. Because of its tie to bonding, you should try not to make food a control battle.” The author’s assessment of food and attachment is spot on with what we often see in our PWNL families. The last sentence is a critical reminder to parents that power struggling over food issues can be damaging to building a healthy and loving attachment relationship.
Below find some tips you can follow at dinner time to help avoid common power struggles:
- Serve food family style (this allows a child control over what they eat/don’t eat)
- As you introduce your child to new foods, have at least one item of the meal be one you know your child feels comfortable with.
- Work on being a role model to your children by allowing them to observe your eating practices and table manners as they settle in and learn.
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