Some of your questions may be answered by fellow birth parents. You can see videos from a birth mother here: Aaren's videos.
Not every expectant parent is at a point where they are ready to parent a child. Providing a stable and loving family for your child may be the most courageous and responsible decision you can make.
The following are the primary reasons that expectant parents choose adoption:
The families ready to adopt include individuals and couples who have stable and loving homes and are of all religious, ethnic, and racial backgrounds. They each prepare a scrapbook, with photos and information about
The Barker Adoption Foundation always allows birth parents to make this choice if they wish. When you are ready, our pregnancy counselor will provide you scrapbooks about our waiting families and tell you more about them.
An open adoption occurs when adoptive parents and birth parents decide to remain in contact as the child grows up. The degree of openness is determined by both the adoptive parents and the birth parents and can include regular visits or only periodic updates and photos. Barker counselors will help guide birth parents and adoptive parents toward the level of openness that works best for all parties and, as needed, help to facilitate the ongoing contact.
Check out this blog post about benefits of open adoption.
A closed adoption occurs when the adoptive family and birth mother and/or birth father choose not to have contact prior to or after the placement of the child.
There are no costs. Our counseling services are free and ongoing for as long as you need support.
Absolutely not. We offer counseling to you with no strings attached. We are here to help you decide what is best for you, and if that is parenting, then that is great. Barker will connect you with resources to help you parent successfully, even when adoption is not the plan that you select.
Contact us at any time. Our counselors can give you information you may find helpful now and will continue to support you as long as you need it. It is never too early or too late to contact us.
Consents for adoption are signed after the baby’s birth, typically a day after delivery. We will never ask you to sign a consent before the baby is born.
The birth mother and birth father are required to sign consents for adoption. If the birth father is unknown, we can assist in identifying and informing him, or work with the courts to terminate parental rights.
In an agency adoption, each state and jurisdiction has a specified period after birth parents sign consents. During this period, birth parents may reflect upon their decision and, if they so choose, revoke their consents for adoption. This is known as the revocation period. The following periods are in effect in the Washington, D.C., metropolitan area:
Adoption requires the consent of the birth father. Our counselors can work with you individually or with you and your partner to explain all of the options to each of you.
The law requires us to show that we have done our best to identify and involve the baby’s father. Our counselors can guide you through the process in a supportive way.
After a baby is born there is a period of time that birth parents have to reflect on their decision before it becomes final. The length of this period is determined by each state. In most cases we will place the baby in the care of one of our loving Cradle Care Families during this period. Our Cradle Care Families are licensed as foster care providers in their respective state and meet regularly with Barker pregnancy services staff for continuing training. They provide the first home for a baby that lasts from a week to 30 days depending upon the state. In many ways these families are the heart and soul of Barker in that they unconditionally open the home and love to each baby that comes into care, providing him or her love and nurture in an anxiety free environment until the next chapter begins with his or her forever family. To learn more about "Cradle Care," read this blog post about Barker's Cradle Care Coordinator, Beth Kirby.
No. Barker counselors are flexible and can meet you where you feel most comfortable. This might mean at your home, at a confidential place of your choosing, or at our office.